As you all know March 8th is National Women’s day. Women have come a long way! We have women in office, we have women running huge companies, and we have women who still choose to stay home and raise their families. All of these jobs are equal because they all take a lot of time, work, effort, and dedication. The point of me mentioning that is we as women have a lot of choices now and aren’t just stuck to being a “wife/mother/home care taker”. Even if you are you should be honored because you still have the option of going out there and getting any job, going to school for anything your heart desires, you are able to be whoever you want to be! Women have not always had these options in life.

Just knowing where we came from, where we are and where we are going gives me goose bumps. Fills me with joy and excitement, for my family, friends, my daughter, and of course myself. Sky is the limit for us!

This topic brings me to women who give all of this up for a man. Women will lose their identity because they put so much of themselves into a man, who many times doesn’t appreciate is as much as he should.


In the photo above you see a woman filled with life and giving the man her all. Yet, he is empty and is just taking her in. If he is empty he has nothing to share with her, nothing to offer her. My advice to all women and girls is keep yourself first! Love yourself, know your worth, have an identity. A mother, a wife, a boss, an employee means nothing if you do not have a true identity. You have to know who you are, why is your husband lucky to have you? Why is your boss lucky to have you as an employee? What makes you a great mother? What make you the woman that you are so that you can share yourself in these different aspects.

If you have No Identity…you will be used and taken advantage of.

Love yourself…to show others how to love you!

(Check out the video above!)

“You are worth more than you could ever imagine” -TheAnimaSeries


Relationships & Family Drama

How many of you have had a relationship where the family was against it? What about where just some people in the family always have something to say whether you are with an amazing person or just a plain old bum? How about that one miserable aunt or cousin that wants to talk/judge everyone to bring everyone down to their level? How much can you deal with? Are you willing to let your boyfriend/girlfriend go because of what your family thinks/says?  Yeah! One time or another we have all been there.

There are many, many, reasons why there maybe that tension between your mama/daddy and your “hubby”/”wifey”. A lot of times this drama is a bit more understanding then when aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents have something to say. All types of issues arise when it comes to relationships and family. He/she is not the same race, they don’t have the same beliefs, they are only with you because of your job, he/she is a bum, his/her job isn’t good enough…the list goes on and on… My favorite is “What will people say/think?”

Now let’s just think about that statement “What will people think/say?” How many people does it take to be in a relationship? How many people does it take to make a relationship work? Sometimes you just have to follow your heart and block everyone out. Could that be a mistake? Absolutely! If it is it will be one of the biggest lessons of your life, either way it is a win, win situation. Now there are some family members who are miserable and have a lot of insecurities about their baggage therefore they will try to bring you and your relationship down by any means necessary. For example, there are several family members in my family who had/have some type of issue against my marriage. They say “She didn’t marry a Jew!” or my favorite “She left home and got married too young.” This is coming from distant family, the reasons why exactly are still unknown. Now i believe everyone is entitled to their own opinions and thoughts but you can not have an opinion unless you know the real relationship inside and out. Which 90% of the time is not the case. I have been with the same person for 10.5 years and our relationship/marriage only gets better and stronger with time. There fore my decision always has and always will be “It is about us and us only! You don’t like it? Remove yourself from my life or I will remove you myself!” I know where my heart is and i know what is best for my life. I refuse to ever go by what someone else thinks is best. One day mom/dad, grandma/grandpa, aunts/uncles will pass on and we have to be okay with the decision we made because we will be left to live the remainder of our lives without those people that tried to influence us to leave the one we love.

By writing about this am i saying “Never listen to family!” Not at all, what i am saying is sometimes only you know best and only you know the truth.

I have a friend, but let’s call her Liz and we will call her husband Paul. She has been married for almost a year and they both come from two completely different kind of families, yet they both have a lot of siblings. Her family has not had any issues and are very accepting. His family/sisters have not let her breathe! The sisters think that whatever they say or however they were raised is how she should be with her husband. Meaning babying him, listening to them, and accepting them while they judge her, put her down, and continue to stick their nose into their life. One sister for example made it a big deal when Liz didn’t show up to the airport when her husband returned from a trip. She said is she was Liz she would be there waiting for him with a hot plate. Now Liz and Paul had an understanding and a plan which is why she wasn’t there. Just from one sister saying something, everyone jumped on the bandwagon including a cousin who all decided to try and gang up against my friend Liz. Now Liz can easily stand up for herself but she should not have to. The husband should have put his foot down the first time this ever happened and made it known that if he is unhappy with something him and his wife will work on it together. In my opinion families should only see you happy! If you are married or are in any relationship there will be a lot of issues you face as a couple, that doesn’t mean go run and share with your family everything. Never forget that families do not forgive as fast as you do.

I have also noticed a lot of mothers get jealous/protective/guarded when it comes to the son’s wife/girlfriend. A lot of times it is because a mother can see right through those that surround her kids. A mother can’t sit back and let her child be controlled or changed in front of her eyes. A lot of women tend to find a man and try to mold him into what/who she’s dreamed of spending her life with. These actions with these women is a recipe for a disaster.

Now! How to deal with these issues? If you are willing to fight for your relationship then let your family know from day one. Let them know “I know who and what i am dealing with let me deal with this myself. If i get hurt then i will learn from it. If i end up marrying this person then this is where i am meant to be.” If there is drama back and forth between sisters, mom, dad, and your other half you have to know once you are married your husband/wife is first place, so if you have to distance yourself for sometime for them to realize that then that is what you need to do. On the other hand sometimes just listen to what your family is saying and take it into consideration. Love can be blind…Love for your other half and the love you have for your family.